Wednesday, June 23, 2010

Interstate Anxiety

By Julie Marie Rahm

Have you ever been stuck in traffic knowing you were going to be late for an important meeting? That’s what happened to my husband, John, and me on Monday. We were driving from Philadelphia to eastern North Carolina, a trip that typically takes eight to nine hours. My husband had a speaking engagement that evening – “Declaration of Independence, the Rest of the Story”. We left Philadelphia before 7AM thinking we would have two to three hours to unwind before his event.

We traveled south on I-95 instead of taking the shore route. Delighted with our progress, we stopped at Wendy’s in Ashland, VA for lunch at 11:30AM. Thirty minutes later, we accelerated back onto I-95 south, only to find ourselves decelerating to a stop before we got up to speed. A voice on the radio said there had been a two-car accident in which two people were killed and three people injured. All lanes and the shoulder of I-95 south were closed. We were three miles from the next exit sitting in a four-lane parking lot. The police directed all traffic to detour at the next exit. One hour passed as we crept forward. Then two hours. Our cushion for an early arrival in North Carolina got eaten up one minute at a time.

I could feel John’s anxiety building as his metaphorical level began to tilt farther and farther off balance. What kind of Mindset Mechanic would I be if I could not help my own husband feel better? All he had to do was identify the truth about what was troubling him and the issue would be resolved. Metaphorical pliers at the ready, I asked John what was bothering him. At first he thought it was being stopped in traffic. Then he thought it was fear of missing his speaking engagement, thus letting down the organization and the event planner. None of these thoughts deleted his anxiety. If the issue is not resolved, there is no truth in the statements. Those were not the thoughts that were truly troubling him.

So, I pulled out the metaphorical utility knife. It sounded like a trigger issue to me. I asked John if he could remember a time when he was punished for being late or for letting someone down. Of course he could. I would imagine that most of us could. A trigger to being punished was the truth that caused his anxiety at that moment. The entire Marine Corps culture in which he had spent 26 years was rooted in being “on time on target”. If he was not on time, Marines could die. We plucked the thought of punishment out of his mind with the metaphorical pliers. Identifying the truth resolved the problem. We cut the cord to his punishment trigger with the metaphorical utility knife. That trigger is now gone forever. Then John was free to handle only the moment at hand. We used the metaphorical hammer to hammer in the thought framework for success. John’s level was in balance again. We called the event planner and explained that we would arrive just in time for John’s lecture.

Back on the highway, we made great time to North Carolina. John changed in the parking lot and arrived in the building just in time to be introduced on stage. He gave an entertaining and informative talk, leaving the audience wanting more. All was well, because we eliminated the punishment trigger and re-balanced his level enabling him to have calm and clarity for his performance.

Sunday, June 13, 2010

The Nine-Minute Miracle Challenge - Receiving Your Prosperity-Filled Perfect 10 in Relationships, Money, Career, Purpose, Fitness and Health

By Julie Marie Rahm

Are you taking the Nine-Minute Miracle Challenge at  http://www.nineminutemiracles.com/ and creating miracles in your life? If so, you started by identifying your level of prosperity in the six areas of your life listed below.

1. Relationships
2. Money
3. Career
4. Purpose
5. Fitness
6. Health

Then, you defined what a prosperity-filled “perfect 10” is for you in each category. If you had difficulty deciding what a “10” looks like to you, use your metaphorical plumb bob. Your plumb bob keeps you centered and points to the heart of the matter. Here’s how.

For each category:
First, use your plumb bob to point to what you cannot live without.
Next, let your plumb bob point to what you would like to have, even if you do not think you deserve it. If you can only think of what you do not want, let your plumb bob point to what you do want.
Finally, let your plumb bob point to the answer to this question: Wouldn’t it be cool if…?

By using your metaphorical plumb bob, you can get clarity on what a prosperity-filled “perfect 10” is for you in your relationships, money, career, purpose, fitness and health. Why are your clear definitions important? Because your answers are ideas. Ideas are thought seeds that will grow into physical reality. How? Because your thoughts determine the way you feel. The way you feel influences the way you act. Your actions create the results you manifest. Your miracles are on their way!

Saturday, June 5, 2010

From Answers to Actions - Intuition is the Key

By Julie Marie Rahm

So many answers. So much confusion. So little action. Having too many answers can be worse than having no answer at all. Two weeks ago I blogged about how to handle too many answers. Now that you have the one answer, let’s talk about taking action.

You have taken your metaphorical utility knife and cut away the conflicting advice and opinions of others, “gone with your gut” and connected with the answer to your dilemma. The trick now is to apply the answer in the most beneficial way. Starting with the right answer in general, the next step is to make it the right answer for your specific situation. For this you need your intuition. Your intuition will reveal the best action that corresponds to your answer. Perhaps you do not trust your intuition any more. You may think it has led you astray in the past. If that is how you feel, there is a good chance you have confused emotions with intuition. To ensure you are feeling your intuition, get your emotions out of the way. The tools you need are your metaphorical level and pliers.

First, use your metaphorical level to check your mood. Is the level showing your mood in balance or is your level tilting from negative emotions? If your mood is not balanced, identify the emotions you are feeling at that moment. Check yourself for rage, anger, anxiety, stress, tension, frustration, confusion, jealousy, resentment, revenge, guilt, grief, sadness, sorrow, depression, pain, anguish, despair, humiliation, embarrassment, shame, disgust, distrust, and un-forgiveness.

Next, once you have identified every negative emotion you are feeling, use your metaphorical pliers to pluck out each negative emotion one by one. Only then will you be free from the fog of emotions and able to feel what your “gut” intuition is truly telling you. Turn off your thinking and feel your intuition. How is the answer best applied for you? The sensation may feel like being blind and yet moving freely through your home because you know where all of the furniture is. Developing your intuition is the key to effectively responding to everything life hands to you. Intuition is a mental skill. With practice you can master your intuition and convert answers to actions. Start now. Call me for a free 15-minute consultation.
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