Saturday, October 30, 2010

Energetic Awareness: How I Quantum Leaped to Success When I Let Go of “Motivational” Books, CDs, Videos and Events

By Julie Rahm

For years I have been a self-help junkie. I read books, listened to tapes and CDs, watched videos, and attended events. Speakers got me pumped up and passionate. But, I would awaken the morning after the event and be unable to re-create the “pumped up passion”. My metaphorical level would tilt with discouragement. Thank goodness I purchased the speakers’ CDs so I could listen, get pumped up again and regain balance. But after a few days even the CDs would not work any more. My metaphorical level remained off balance. People who are supposed to have credibility were telling me I should feel motivated by what I was reading, hearing, and seeing, and that I needed to be passionate about my dream. Everyone else seemed motivated. Of course I must be, too.

For years I was convinced that I truly was motivated by it all. I was following all of the self-help advice. I had written personal and professional goals with dates when I would achieve said goals. I had a list of rhyming positive affirmations that I recited daily. “I am feeling energetic and lean weighing 118.” So why did I still weigh 128 pounds and why was I not a millionaire? What was wrong with me? The problem was that my mind did not believe any of it.

When I let go of all the self-help advice and focused only on whether my energy felt weak or strong, everything changed. Doors of amazing opportunities as an author, speaker, coach, and radio show host suddenly opened to me. The key was to simply monitor the way I was feeling.

Your energy changes with your thoughts and emotions. The minute your energy weakens, your metaphorical level tilts off balance indicating that your thoughts/emotions are heading away from the results you desire. The way you think affects the way you feel. The way you feel affects the way you act. The way you act drives the results you get. When your level tilts, use your metaphorical flashlight (logic and intuition) to reveal the negative thoughts/emotions at the source of your weakened energy. Once you identify the thoughts/emotions, use your metaphorical pliers to pluck them out of your mind. (Identifying the source thoughts/emotions dissipates the energy behind them and strengthens you again.) Use your metaphorical utility knife to cut the cord to all of the past experiences and memories of having those thoughts and feeling those emotions. Then, use your metaphorical hammer to hammer in believable thoughts until your energy is strong and your metaphorical level is in balance again.

Maintaining energetic balance simply means nothing affects you in an adverse way. No matter what happens around you, you remain energetically strong – and neutral. Neutral is a much easier daily state to attain than passion. When you are in neutral, you have clarity and your thoughts are taking you toward the results you desire.

So the next time you are watching a video on YouTube that is supposed to inspire you, check your metaphorical level. Do you feel worse about yourself or better as a result of watching it? Be aware of what is happening to your energy, keep it strong, and you can do anything.

Monday, October 18, 2010

Staying Open to New Ideas

By Julie Rahm

Successful people know how to change with the times. They do not get stuck doing the same things in the same way, year after year. They regularly evaluate where they are and what they are doing so they can make adjustments and improve. Just because something worked five years ago does not mean it will still be effective today. We cannot get so set in our ways that we never try anything new. That is what happens to some people who have no zest for life. Every time an opportunity comes for positive change they shrink away from it. They do not realize that is what keeps them from going to the next level in their lives. Their metaphorical levels are tilting out of balance from negative experiences and memories, fears and emotions. In order to keep the sparkle in our lives we need to get our metaphorical levels back in balance and become open for change.

Perhaps you have set out on a new path with an end in mind and things did not work out the way you hoped. In such times often a different opportunity presents itself. And yet you can miss that opportunity completely by not being open for something new.

I heard about a boy named Mike who wanted to be the greatest baseball hitter in the world. Every day he would practice in his backyard. He would say, “I am the greatest hitter in the world!” toss the ball in the air and swing his bat. And he would miss. Strike one. Unphased, he would pick up his ball and with even more enthusiasm say, “I am the greatest hitter of all time in the world!”. He would toss the ball in the air, swing his bat and miss. Strike two. More determined than ever, he would adjust his cap, pick up his ball, and adjust his stance. With passion from his toes he would yell, “I am the world’s greatest hitter of all time in the entire universe!”. He would toss his ball in the air, swing his bat, and miss. Strike three. Without missing a beat, Mike picked up his ball, looked at it and said, “What do you know? I am the greatest pitcher of all time!”. So we need to stay open for something new.

If you feel like you shrink from new opportunities, get clarity about why and bring enthusiasm back to your life by using your metaphorical tool kit to give yourself a mindset tune-up. Use your metaphorical flashlight to shine light on the memories, thoughts and emotions the opportunity brings up in you. Use your metaphorical pliers to pluck out negative thoughts and emotions. Remember, what you are really doing is identifying the truth about what thoughts and emotions are causing your metaphorical level to be out of balance. When you identify the true thought or emotion behind the way you feel, the energy behind it dissipates and you feel relief.

Then, use your metaphorical utility knife to cut the cord to the cumulative effects of bad-feeling experiences and memories being triggered by the opportunity in front of you. Take yourself back to the earliest time you can remember feeling the same way. Who was there? What happened? What did you think and what emotions did you feel at the time? Put your intention on the core of your body and command the cumulative effects of those thoughts and emotions to leave you. They really will. You do not need them any more. This time is not like that time.

Now you are ready to use your metaphorical hammer to hammer in the mindset framework for being open to new ideas and change. Use your metaphorical screwdriver to connect your intentions to stay open for something new with your actions and your actions with results. Use your metaphorical measuring tape to measure your progress. Noticing your progress puts positive energy behind it and builds momentum for more opportunities.

So keep your metaphorical tool kit handy. When the chance comes for something new, like promotion or increase in your life, pay attention to your level. If you are out of balance, give yourself a mindset tune-up so you have clarity in saying yes or no to the opportunity.

Sunday, October 10, 2010

Putting a Metaphorical Stake through the Hearts of Your Energy Vampires

By Julie Rahm

Novels by Stephenie Meyer and Anne Rice are not the only place to find vampires. In fact, they are lurking all around you in the form of family members, friends and co-workers. At their first opportunity they bite, leaving even the healthiest person feeling drained, weakened and deflated while they are rejuvenated. Brief encounters can be quelled by fresh air, homemade chocolate chip cookies, or aspirin. However, prolonged exposure over time can increase your risk for fatigue, depression, nausea, headaches, overeating and conditions ranging from “ulcers to heart attacks” according to psychiatrist Judith Orloff, M.D., author of Positive Energy.

Dr. Orloff describes the eight most common energy vampires as sob sister, drama queen, blamer, fixer-upper, charmer, go-for-the-jugular fiend, constant talker/joke-teller (aka jester), and unintentional sapper, although others may be lurking in the shadows awaiting their metaphorical full moon to reveal themselves. Each vampire has a unique attack method, yet strategies for defending yourself follow the same principles – set boundaries and work on your own positive energy.

Every encounter between human beings is an exchange of energy. We are energetic beings in physical bodies. Without energy we are nothing. Once you become aware that a family member, friend, or co-worker is sucking the life force out of you and is regularly causing your metaphorical level to tilt, start plotting your defense.

First, establish your boundaries and limits. For instance, the sob sister is one of the most prevalent and harmful energy vampires. She talks on and on about her numerous problems – a victim without focusing on solutions. When you encounter her, tell her you can only listen to her grumble for five minutes. Use your metaphorical pliers to pluck out any thoughts that you have a responsibility to be her therapist or fix her situation. Her problems are not your job. If she wanted to find solutions and do something other than complain she would. She will likely resist you and say something like “I thought you were my friend!”. At which point you can say to her that you are her friend and you need to take care of yourself, too. You will need to have this conversation multiple times. Be firm and kind at the same time.

Second, use your metaphorical hammer to hammer in your mindset for clear, positive energy. Your positive energy, clarity and vision must be greater than your energy vampire’s negativity. Try hammering in a vision of yourself in a beautiful place. Jack Canfield suggests imagining yourself in the center of the fountain outside of the Bellagio Hotel in Las Vegas, with sunlight dancing off the walls of water droplets surrounding you. Or, hammer in visions of things that make you happy – children, puppies, sailboats on the water. Or, use your metaphorical screwdriver to reconnect your mind with one of the best moments of your life. All of these defenses build a strong positive field around you which will keep out negative energy.

With some energy vampires walking away is the best strategy. This works best if you are in a conversation with a “jester” or a “charmer” who is only interested in hearing his own voice and opinion while being the center of attention. Some people feel like they are being rude if they walk away in the middle of a conversation. My favorite way out is to say, “Excuse me, I have to go to the bathroom.”

It is easy to resent energy vampires. Just remember that most of the time they are not malicious in their intent. They often have no awareness of their effect on people. So be kind to them as you take care of your own energy needs. To neutralize their negative energy make sure you are not being negative, too. You can stop the cycle of negativity by sending them love and prayers even while you are together. See them for the beautiful spirits they are even when their behavior suggests otherwise.

Maintaining your positive energy to slay energy vampires is like maintaining your immune system to slay disease. Make a list of things that boost your energy both physically and emotionally. Get enough sleep. Exercise. Choose foods that raise your energy. Breathe deeply. When you are physically tired you are more susceptible to energy attacks. By taking care of your own energy and not adding to the negativity of your energy vampires, you are bringing them your best help.

Friday, October 1, 2010

The Second Secret to Money Flowing Easily and Frequently to You

By Julie Rahm

Forgiveness is like setting a captive bird free and realizing you are the bird. Forgiveness is dismissing all blame. Forgiveness is a way to get into the present. Forgiveness is the second secret to money and prosperity flowing easily and frequently to you.

By forgiving and letting go of blame, guilt and anger you have room to be prosperous, and your metaphorical level stays in balance. What do you get out of not forgiving yourself and others? Blame, guilt and anger take up so much space inside of you that prosperity cannot get in and your metaphorical level remains tilted toward the negative. When you talk about your wounds and hold onto them, you focus your energy on your wounds. You are like the sun in your own life. What you shine on grows; meaning what you focus on grows. Consequently, when you talk about and hold onto your wounds they seem to grow.

Why is it so hard to forgive others? We blame others, because we are unwilling to forgive ourselves. It is impossible to forgive others if we do not forgive ourselves first. Because, we cannot give away what we do not have. We must first create forgiveness in ourselves in order to give it away to others. Use your metaphorical flashlight to shed light on the truth about why you are not forgiving yourself. If you are having trouble identifying the truth, think about the earliest time in your life when you felt the same feelings. Who was there? What was happening? Pluck those thoughts from your mind with your metaphorical pliers. Use your metaphorical utility knife to cut the cords to all of the past times you felt you were unworthy or undeserving of forgiveness. Then hammer in the mindset framework for forgiveness and prosperity by forgiving yourself.

Simply practice forgiving yourself. The energy that is forgiving becomes the energy that is you. Every night for five minutes honor your subconscious and unconscious minds by letting go of the day with forgiveness. Go through the events of the day in your mind. Where you need to let go of something, say “I forgive myself for ________”, or “I forgive _______ for ________”.

Forgiveness is the second key to money and prosperity flowing easily and frequently to you. Forgive yourself and others so peace, contentment, happiness and prosperity have a place to live in you. When you do you are on your way to being your best self!
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